How to Attract Women If You're Not That Attractive: 10 Rules for Attracting Women If You're Not That Good-Looking

How to Attract Women if You're Not That Attractive looks like a great motivational and self-help book. Do you plan on writing an follow ups or similar books?

I don’t plan on writing any similar books or follow-ups. I’m not a dating coach nor do I plan to be one. This book is my life story/how-to book for future generations.

What do you think makes a great motivational book?

Lots of dating books come from the point-of-view of an attractive white man, average height or taller, who tells guys to just go out there and make moves.

I am not an attractive white man.

I’m a 5’ 1 ¾” Filipino male. I had a little more work to do to be attractive and I got it done, dammit. I may have had to fly to places like California or Chicago to find a date, but I got dates.

I had to learn how to be attractive in mind and wallet because I didn’t have much of a body. This book tells “not-so-attractive” guys what it will take for them to get dates.

What inspired you when writing How to Attract Women if You're Not That Attractive?

I wanted my story to get out into the world. Lots of young men yearn for love and don’t know how to get it. They think that love is some magical force that will just magically appear when a hot girl walks into your college classroom, sits next to you, can falls in love with you.

No, dammit!

You’ve got to go up to that hottie, compliment her on something, and ask her a question as if you’re interested in her life. Then you keep asking her questions to make her feel special. Eventually, she thinks you’re special because you make her feel good by talking about herself. She wants more of this. Then you ask her our and she accepts because she loves talking about herself – most people, not just women, do.

What are your ambitions for your writing career? Full time? Part time?

I don’t know if I’ll have a “writing career.” I just wanted my life story – up to this point - to be told. I learned how to talk to women through research and I didn’t know what else to do with my knowledge. I’m married. I can’t use it anymore. I hope younger men who struggled like I did can use it.

When did you decide to become a writer?

Against all the rules of manliness, and inspired by Doogie Howser, M.D., I started diary when I was a teenager.

After years of journaling and having great English teachers, I became a decent writer. Being able to read and write, I majored in English in college.

Knowing how to write, I decided to publish my life story – “How to Attract Women If You’re Not That Attractive.”

I’ve read some independent books that were poorly written and figured, hey if they can write a book and publish it, I can too.

When writing How to Attract Women if You're Not That Attractive did anything stand out as particularly challenging?

Yes. Rule #9: Go to strip clubs and use the strippers as psychologists.

I didn’t want to seem like a deviant, but I think it’s practical advice.

Barring all serious medical conditions, I believe that lots of people seek therapy because they just need someone to vent too – and their friends and family suck as listeners because they respond with “You should do this and that…” A psychologist actually listens to you and asks you questions without judgement (I’ve seen a few.) A stripper will do the same for you.

If you’re striking out with women, go to a club, pay the $20 for a dance – it’s the same as a co-pay - and while you’re getting your rocks off, ask the young lady, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get a date?” Believe it or not, she will give you an honest answer because human nature dictates that people love helping people.

You’ll also be less desperate when you go back out to speak to other women because you’ll know that if you’re rejected, you can just run back into a club to see boobs.

I didn’t know if I wanted this section in print. My editor advised me to remove this chapter. But, I believe in what I’m saying.

Besides, Many exotic dancers are sweet, hard-working people. Who wouldn’t want to support them?

How did you come up with the concepts and ideas in How to Attract Women if You're Not That Attractive?

After writing the first draft of my life story, I noticed a theme – lots of dating advice. That turned into “The Ten Rules of Dating.”

What do you like to do when not writing?

I like looking at flowers and shit. Botanical gardens in the spring and Vermont foliage peeping in the fall. I love two-month vacations in the Philippines with my family. My time there renews my faith in people. The Filipino fast food workers smile, say and say things like “madam,” “sir,” “thank you.” Mostly, I enjoy going out to eat or ordering in with my family – including extended aunts, uncles, and cousins.

How can readers discover more about you and your work?

Go to EnriqueVoltaire.com for a preview of the book or personally email me at TheAttractiveNerd@gmail.com with a question. I will give you email free therapy if I have the time.

If you’re having girl problems, I feel bad for you… but I’m willing to help. God Bless. *Kissing two fingers and throwing up the peace sign*